A pow wow, resolved feelings and a favor done lovingly

I don't have a lot of time to do a long entry this morning but I wanted to jot down a few things before the day gets away from me. 

The PowWow:

I made an appointment with my son and his wife for this past Thursday night.  I went down to their house around 6:30 so I could spend an hour with the kids before they went to bed and then I sat with Bryan and Shannon and talked to them about my feelings surrounding Christmas.

It wasn't totally about their being irresponsible at Christmas, it was also about them keeping their commitments and treating me with the same respect that I treat them.  It was a very low key, loving conversation.  I explained how they have always known me to be very kick back about things.  I used to make everything, even bad behavior, OK.   I won't be doing that anymore.  I want to be treated respectfully and if they tell me they will do something they better do it or let me know they can't so I can make other arrangements.  They were surprised that it bothered me so much but after they thought about it, understood and agreed that they wouldn't let it happen again.

We talked about a lot of other things, too, so they would know the changes and the other places that I am focusing on to change.  I told them that I need their support and encouragement and I think I will get it.

I've had several conversations over the phone with both of them since and they have been very warm and nice.  I sure feel a lot better getting it off my chest.  It wasn't, in the grand scope of things, a huge deal but it was something that needed to be settled between us.  My feelings have been resolved.

My dear friend, Sylvia's father passed away last Monday.  Today is his funeral.  When I asked what I could do she said 'nothing', everything was handled.  A few days later she called and asked if my offer was still open and I told her 'of course!'.  She asked me to babysit her niece's 3 yr. old son and 1 yr. old daughter so she and her husband wouldn't have to take them to the services.  So, that is what I'm doing today.  I'm going to Syl's mom's home and I will stay with the little ones so their parents can go to the funeral.  My son will be dropping off Andrew and he will be staying with me during the chapel service.  Bryan isn't going to the cemetery after the chapel so Andrew will only be with me for about 2 hours.  I will get to pay my respects to the family after the services and to do something special for them and for my friend.  My heart is happy today.

It's 38 degrees at 8:45 a.m.  Sky is clear, a little breezy but otherwise beautiful outside.  The heater has been cranking out warm air all night.  Thank God for heaters.  LOL

Psssst.....  rest in peace Ted.  You were a wonderful man and a terrific father and grandfather.